I’ve been thinking about this topic lately as Sam gets older and starts having little playmates at school etc… I grew up calling my parents’ friends by their first names, but I always called my friends’ parents Mr./Mrs. _____. I don’t recall ever being “taught” that necessarily, it just made sense. (Funny little side note: Jeff’s mom is still listed in my cell phone as “Mrs. Chapman” because I added her to my contacts when Jeff and I were in high school and newly boyfriend/girlfriend. This cracks me up every time now since – especially being a teacher – I am very much “Mrs. Chapman” these days, but I don’t change it because it’s just so sweet and nostalgic to me.)
Anyway… I think I like the following “rules” for kids addressing adults:
My friends’ kids call me Elizabeth. (Or E)
My kids’ friends call me Mrs. Chapman. (These are their hypothetical school friends etc. that I don’t really know… I guess? I’m kind-of undecided on this one. Do I want them to call me Elizabeth too? Is that too “let’s be BFFs”? Clearly I’m over-thinking this.)
My kids call my friends by their first name. (If they are OK with it.)
My kids call their friends’ parents Mr./Mrs. (unless otherwise instructed by the aforementioned BFF parents ;))
I’ve been thinking that I’m not a big fan of the whole “Miss Elizabeth” thing, but then I remembered that we totally call our babysitter Miss Jennifer, so… Who even knows what I think?!?
What do you teach your kids when it comes to addressing adults? More importantly, how do you teach it? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!!
P.S. Thanks for the feedback on my Stitch Fix post yesterday. Pretty sure they won’t be contacting me to be their ambassador for a while. 😉 (If you missed my review/critique, check it out here.)